She did cancel on the third voicemail but also suggested next week. Get this. She couldn't go to lunch last week because her work decided to change an afternoon meeting to a lunch meeting. So since her current guy was going out of town on the afternoon of her birthday she asked me if I wanted to hang out after and ride motorcycles -- only she wasn't sure if he fixed her bike. (She mentioned this in the first 2 messages). Well on the third message she said "Not sure it will be done in time tomorrow so rather than be a flake let's meet sometime next week." She also mistakenly called him by MY name, caught herself and got VERY nervous.
I wonder, could you be a little elusive and hard-to-get? As you say, being confident, happy, secure is good, but also being Really Busy so you don't just drop everything to see her whenever it's good for her schedule, have her missing you and for goodness sakes don't let her think you are waiting by the phone for her.
Well in fairness I haven't been calling her back every time or right away and I normally can't get back to her via email for hours. In fact, after she left the last VM on Friday night I didn't get back to her until lunchtime Tuesday to reschedule. I'm being as elusive, happy and confident as I can be (and am!). I didn't jump to schedule anything right away and in fact I've said more than once "If we can't work out something with our schedules we can always do it some other time."
This is advice women usually give each other to "catch a guy" but I think it works in your situation also! I'm just thinking it might be good if she had a chance to pine over you and miss you and wonder what you were doing...
I don't think it will be possible for her to pine over me unless she gets to see the improvements I've made in my life. Also she is dating someone right now so it makes it easier for her to keep her mind off me. But I believe once we meet as long as I stick to my improvements, make it fun, happy and basically be the attractive guy she liked in the first place I just have to leave it to fate. I won't be upset if this doesn't work out. I firml believe that I am the right guy for her and don't feel I need to prove it any longer. She'll either see it or she won't but no amount of pressure from my side will make a difference. I just have to be me :)
I agree on the coupon book. Good decision Jarbar. Baby steps, one thing at a time. First you get together, and it is just light and breezy, a pleasant lunch, nothing heavy about "relationships" etc. Maybe after a few pleasant meetings then you do the coupon book thingie.
That's the plan. I just want to see how the lunch goes. I'll definitely make it fun, light, breezy and pleasant. After that it's one day at a time. If there is still a spark there I'll let her light the fire and continue with my schedule and life as is. It's plenty fulfilling and fun. I don't NEED anyone in my life. I still love her but don't need her.
I wonder, could you be a little elusive and hard-to-get? As you say, being confident, happy, secure is good, but also being Really Busy so you don't just drop everything to see her whenever it's good for her schedule, have her missing you and for goodness sakes don't let her think you are waiting by the phone for her.
Well in fairness I haven't been calling her back every time or right away and I normally can't get back to her via email for hours. In fact, after she left the last VM on Friday night I didn't get back to her until lunchtime Tuesday to reschedule. I'm being as elusive, happy and confident as I can be (and am!). I didn't jump to schedule anything right away and in fact I've said more than once "If we can't work out something with our schedules we can always do it some other time."
This is advice women usually give each other to "catch a guy" but I think it works in your situation also! I'm just thinking it might be good if she had a chance to pine over you and miss you and wonder what you were doing...
I don't think it will be possible for her to pine over me unless she gets to see the improvements I've made in my life. Also she is dating someone right now so it makes it easier for her to keep her mind off me. But I believe once we meet as long as I stick to my improvements, make it fun, happy and basically be the attractive guy she liked in the first place I just have to leave it to fate. I won't be upset if this doesn't work out. I firml believe that I am the right guy for her and don't feel I need to prove it any longer. She'll either see it or she won't but no amount of pressure from my side will make a difference. I just have to be me :)
I agree on the coupon book. Good decision Jarbar. Baby steps, one thing at a time. First you get together, and it is just light and breezy, a pleasant lunch, nothing heavy about "relationships" etc. Maybe after a few pleasant meetings then you do the coupon book thingie.
That's the plan. I just want to see how the lunch goes. I'll definitely make it fun, light, breezy and pleasant. After that it's one day at a time. If there is still a spark there I'll let her light the fire and continue with my schedule and life as is. It's plenty fulfilling and fun. I don't NEED anyone in my life. I still love her but don't need her.
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