They assumed that being an outgoing, free-spirited meant you didn't have any hang-ups with sex....THEY WERE WRONG!!!
A lot of the men Ive met on the site say they are looking for a relationship and the more we get to talking it always seems tho turn into them asking a lot of sexual questions!
And this suprises you why?
What's so terrible about a guy wanting to have great sex with someone he's in a relationship with?
I just know want to know what approach to take so they want to get to know me before they want to know how to get down my pants.
Good luck with that...
Don't take offence cause this isn't personally directed at you, but most people (myself included) just aren't interesting enough to listen to entirely without sexual motivation. Attraction and the hopes for sexual interaction are what motivate many men to listen to women drone on about themselves. Likewise, many attractive men get away with being as shallow as puddles for the very same reason.
The best you can hope for is a man that can hide his true intentions long enough so that you feel comfortable 'putting out'. Now don't go off hating men because they love sex, just try to understand how it isn't a seperate entity for them.
But to answer your question 'what approach to take' try this...
Next time a guy you are interested in starts asking sexual questions before you feel comfortable, put your hand over his and tell him that while you really love sex you feel he might be special and you want to make sure that you both know each other as much as possible before going to that level.
This will encourage him to put those questions on hold for awhile because he thinks he has a shot. But don't kid yourself, it is a need and it is still there, he's just putting it on hold in the hopes his investment will pay off later. At some point (probably within a month) you'll have to address his need or lose him.
A lot of the men Ive met on the site say they are looking for a relationship and the more we get to talking it always seems tho turn into them asking a lot of sexual questions!
And this suprises you why?
What's so terrible about a guy wanting to have great sex with someone he's in a relationship with?
I just know want to know what approach to take so they want to get to know me before they want to know how to get down my pants.
Good luck with that...
Don't take offence cause this isn't personally directed at you, but most people (myself included) just aren't interesting enough to listen to entirely without sexual motivation. Attraction and the hopes for sexual interaction are what motivate many men to listen to women drone on about themselves. Likewise, many attractive men get away with being as shallow as puddles for the very same reason.
The best you can hope for is a man that can hide his true intentions long enough so that you feel comfortable 'putting out'. Now don't go off hating men because they love sex, just try to understand how it isn't a seperate entity for them.
But to answer your question 'what approach to take' try this...
Next time a guy you are interested in starts asking sexual questions before you feel comfortable, put your hand over his and tell him that while you really love sex you feel he might be special and you want to make sure that you both know each other as much as possible before going to that level.
This will encourage him to put those questions on hold for awhile because he thinks he has a shot. But don't kid yourself, it is a need and it is still there, he's just putting it on hold in the hopes his investment will pay off later. At some point (probably within a month) you'll have to address his need or lose him.
