How do you get a guy to not just want you for sex??? (5)

They assumed that being an outgoing, free-spirited meant you didn't have any hang-ups with sex....THEY WERE WRONG!!!


A lot of the men Ive met on the site say they are looking for a relationship and the more we get to talking it always seems tho turn into them asking a lot of sexual questions!


And this suprises you why?
What's so terrible about a guy wanting to have great sex with someone he's in a relationship with?


I just know want to know what approach to take so they want to get to know me before they want to know how to get down my pants.


Good luck with that...
Don't take offence cause this isn't personally directed at you, but most people (myself included) just aren't interesting enough to listen to entirely without sexual motivation. Attraction and the hopes for sexual interaction are what motivate many men to listen to women drone on about themselves. Likewise, many attractive men get away with being as shallow as puddles for the very same reason.

The best you can hope for is a man that can hide his true intentions long enough so that you feel comfortable 'putting out'. Now don't go off hating men because they love sex, just try to understand how it isn't a seperate entity for them.

But to answer your question 'what approach to take' try this...
Next time a guy you are interested in starts asking sexual questions before you feel comfortable, put your hand over his and tell him that while you really love sex you feel he might be special and you want to make sure that you both know each other as much as possible before going to that level.

This will encourage him to put those questions on hold for awhile because he thinks he has a shot. But don't kid yourself, it is a need and it is still there, he's just putting it on hold in the hopes his investment will pay off later. At some point (probably within a month) you'll have to address his need or lose him.

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Don't take offence cause this isn't personally directed at you, but most people (myself included) just aren't interesting enough to listen to entirely without sexual motivation. Attraction and the hopes for sexual interaction are what motivate many men to listen to women drone on about themselves.


Don't be offended by this because it is not directed at you personally... it's directed at all men that listen to or get to know women just to have sex.

It's comments like the one above that help convince women that all men want is sex. If sex is the a man's main motivation to listen and get to know a woman then he should visit a hooker. At least that would be honest on both parts. The type of man that listens to women to get sex is the type that I have to teach my daughters to steer clear from when they grow up.


But don't kid yourself, it[sex] is a need and it is still there, he's just putting it on hold in the hopes his investment will pay off later. At some point (probably within a month) you'll have to address his need or lose him.


The last time I checked no human has ever died because they did not have sex. Sex is NOT a need. Oxygen is a need. Food and water are needs. Sex is a want, a desire and a very high value.

The man who despises himself tries to gain self-esteem from sexual adventures—which can’t be done, because sex is not the cause, but an effect and an expression of a man’s sense of his own value . . .

Sex is a physical capacity, but its exercise is determined by man’s mind—by his choice of values, held consciously or subconsciously. To a rational man, sex is an expression of self-esteem—a celebration of himself and of existence. To the man who lacks self-esteem, sex is an attempt to fake it, to acquire its momentary illusion.

Romantic love, in the full sense of the term, is an emotion possible only to the man (or woman) of unbreached self-esteem: it is his response to his own highest values in the person of another—an integrated response of mind and body, of love and sexual desire. Such a man (or woman) is incapable of experiencing a sexual desire divorced from spiritual values.


Sex is one of the most important aspects of man’s life and, therefore, must never be approached lightly or casually. A sexual relationship is proper only on the ground of the highest values one can find in a human being. Sex must not be anything other than a response to values. And that is why I consider promiscuity immoral. Not because sex is evil, but because sex is too good and too important . . . .

[Sex should] involve . . . a very serious relationship. Whether that relationship should or should not become a marriage is a question which depends on the circumstances and the context of the two persons’ lives. I consider marriage a very important institution, but it is important when and if two people have found the person with whom they wish to spend the rest of their lives—a question of which no man or woman can be automatically certain. When one is certain that one’s choice is final, then marriage is, of course, a desirable state. But this does not mean that any relationship based on less than total certainty is improper. I think the question of an affair or a marriage depends on the knowledge and the position of the two persons involved and should be left up to them. Either is moral, provided only that both parties take the relationship seriously and that it is based on values.

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How do you get a guy to not just want you for sex???

Good Question
The decent guys with manners sets the tone for a conversation and even they will tip in a few sexual questions just to test the water i guess its a form of flirting and as long as they are asked at the right time i dont think it would bother you .

Outgoing bubbly and talkative women are sexy to men and some will turn into thinking your an easy lay i know some women go silent for a few seconds when you ask the wrong question and to me thats the mark not to discuss such things at that stage and i know where i stand .

Sites like this attract players and married men looking for a fling or even single guys with sex as the only motive and having read the forums it couldbe as high as 60 percent maybe higher so u will have to wade your way through .

And if they get offended well you know what they are all about .

If your not happy about answering sexual questions just say those are private answers and i dont want to discuss them with you as we have only just met . Soon sorts out the wheat from the chaff .

Guys that find a woman that they really like and want as a partner or even think that it may go further wont just want to bed you .

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