Don't take offence cause this isn't personally directed at you, but most people (myself included) just aren't interesting enough to listen to entirely without sexual motivation. Attraction and the hopes for sexual interaction are what motivate many men to listen to women drone on about themselves.
Don't be offended by this because it is not directed at you personally... it's directed at all men that listen to or get to know women just to have sex.
It's comments like the one above that help convince women that all men want is sex. If sex is the a man's main motivation to listen and get to know a woman then he should visit a hooker. At least that would be honest on both parts. The type of man that listens to women to get sex is the type that I have to teach my daughters to steer clear from when they grow up.
But don't kid yourself, it[sex] is a need and it is still there, he's just putting it on hold in the hopes his investment will pay off later. At some point (probably within a month) you'll have to address his need or lose him.
The last time I checked no human has ever died because they did not have sex. Sex is NOT a need. Oxygen is a need. Food and water are needs. Sex is a want, a desire and a very high value.
The man who despises himself tries to gain self-esteem from sexual adventures—which can’t be done, because sex is not the cause, but an effect and an expression of a man’s sense of his own value . . .
Sex is a physical capacity, but its exercise is determined by man’s mind—by his choice of values, held consciously or subconsciously. To a rational man, sex is an expression of self-esteem—a celebration of himself and of existence. To the man who lacks self-esteem, sex is an attempt to fake it, to acquire its momentary illusion.
Romantic love, in the full sense of the term, is an emotion possible only to the man (or woman) of unbreached self-esteem: it is his response to his own highest values in the person of another—an integrated response of mind and body, of love and sexual desire. Such a man (or woman) is incapable of experiencing a sexual desire divorced from spiritual values.
Sex is one of the most important aspects of man’s life and, therefore, must never be approached lightly or casually. A sexual relationship is proper only on the ground of the highest values one can find in a human being. Sex must not be anything other than a response to values. And that is why I consider promiscuity immoral. Not because sex is evil, but because sex is too good and too important . . . .
[Sex should] involve . . . a very serious relationship. Whether that relationship should or should not become a marriage is a question which depends on the circumstances and the context of the two persons’ lives. I consider marriage a very important institution, but it is important when and if two people have found the person with whom they wish to spend the rest of their lives—a question of which no man or woman can be automatically certain. When one is certain that one’s choice is final, then marriage is, of course, a desirable state. But this does not mean that any relationship based on less than total certainty is improper. I think the question of an affair or a marriage depends on the knowledge and the position of the two persons involved and should be left up to them. Either is moral, provided only that both parties take the relationship seriously and that it is based on values.
Don't be offended by this because it is not directed at you personally... it's directed at all men that listen to or get to know women just to have sex.
It's comments like the one above that help convince women that all men want is sex. If sex is the a man's main motivation to listen and get to know a woman then he should visit a hooker. At least that would be honest on both parts. The type of man that listens to women to get sex is the type that I have to teach my daughters to steer clear from when they grow up.
But don't kid yourself, it[sex] is a need and it is still there, he's just putting it on hold in the hopes his investment will pay off later. At some point (probably within a month) you'll have to address his need or lose him.
The last time I checked no human has ever died because they did not have sex. Sex is NOT a need. Oxygen is a need. Food and water are needs. Sex is a want, a desire and a very high value.
The man who despises himself tries to gain self-esteem from sexual adventures—which can’t be done, because sex is not the cause, but an effect and an expression of a man’s sense of his own value . . .
Sex is a physical capacity, but its exercise is determined by man’s mind—by his choice of values, held consciously or subconsciously. To a rational man, sex is an expression of self-esteem—a celebration of himself and of existence. To the man who lacks self-esteem, sex is an attempt to fake it, to acquire its momentary illusion.
Romantic love, in the full sense of the term, is an emotion possible only to the man (or woman) of unbreached self-esteem: it is his response to his own highest values in the person of another—an integrated response of mind and body, of love and sexual desire. Such a man (or woman) is incapable of experiencing a sexual desire divorced from spiritual values.
Sex is one of the most important aspects of man’s life and, therefore, must never be approached lightly or casually. A sexual relationship is proper only on the ground of the highest values one can find in a human being. Sex must not be anything other than a response to values. And that is why I consider promiscuity immoral. Not because sex is evil, but because sex is too good and too important . . . .
[Sex should] involve . . . a very serious relationship. Whether that relationship should or should not become a marriage is a question which depends on the circumstances and the context of the two persons’ lives. I consider marriage a very important institution, but it is important when and if two people have found the person with whom they wish to spend the rest of their lives—a question of which no man or woman can be automatically certain. When one is certain that one’s choice is final, then marriage is, of course, a desirable state. But this does not mean that any relationship based on less than total certainty is improper. I think the question of an affair or a marriage depends on the knowledge and the position of the two persons involved and should be left up to them. Either is moral, provided only that both parties take the relationship seriously and that it is based on values.
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