Why do women refuse to make a first contact after you have already met

I haven't got a problem calling..once I am both comfortable that he is the type of guy that doesn't mind, and I am comfortable that we are actually dating, not just in the see what happens phase...some men do not like being called..they like the decision of when they feel like talking in their hands..and most don't like phone calls without a purpose...many women know this and don't want to offend a guy..it isn't a big enough deal to write him off..and in the beginning stages it makes sense not to step on his toes...or worse, be seen as needy or stalking...plus, there is a correlation , silly book and movie or not..with, if you, as a woman . have to do all the initiating, you never know his true interest..once a relationship is established in some sense...I haven't got a problem calling if I need /want to...

I personally have a phone phobia about calling people I don't know well...I don't like being an unexpected and unwelcome surprise, nor being thought of as a pest..or invading people's space, or interrupting something important..and some see unexpected phone calls as just that...

Women are also pretty indoctrinated, no matter what the prevailing theory or societal expectation is, that it is unseemly for them to be do anything that seems like chasing...and some women just aren't secure enough to risk it...

OP: In your case, it sounds like more than whether she called or not...it also sounds like your relationship was a stage where she should have been comfortable calling...unless it was all about the attention for her...