Dating Tips for Women Over 40: 5 Unexpected Places to Meet Great Men Over 40

It breaks my heart whenever I hear women say that there aren't any good men over 40 left to date, because it's just not true. Sure, it feels true when you're sitting across the table from your blind date—a guy who wears black socks with sandals and whines about how his seventh divorce really was all his wife's fault, because frankly, in his opinion, all women are inherently evil, gold diggers or both.

But there are a lot of decent, kind, available men over 40 who are single and looking for someone to love.

We all know that once you hit your fortieth (err, thirtieth) birthday, you're not going to have much luck spending every weekend hanging out in a bar, gripping a bottle of light beer, and listening to the same old jokes, meeting the same people in different clothes. When we belly up to the bar, we're much more likely to meet that smarmy loser whose exposed silver chest hairs seem perilously likely to fall in our drinks than be the man of our dreams.

So where do you go to meet these wonderful, enlightened, please-let-them-be-attractive, minimally damaged men over 40?

5 Unexpected Places to Find Great, Single Men Over 40 to Date Right Now

1) Parties Once-Removed: Six Degrees of Barbeque

How can you expect to meet and date great men over 40 when you always invite the same seventeen people to all of your parties? Bring some new blood to the old gang. With Parties Once-Removed, everybody you invite brings someone that nobody else in the group knows. Think of it as six degrees of separation, only backwards. Voila! You'll have a party full of brand-new people who already get along great with your closest friends.

2) Go Clubbing

Want to meet an endless supply of fit, financially comfortable, educated men over 40? Take up golfing. If you don't already golf, there are lots of reasonably priced lessons at your local public course. (And of course, plenty of overpriced ones at the private clubs.)

Once you've mastered the basics, you have two options to maximize your man-meeting potential: You can pull together a foursome with a collection of like-minded women, or you can head out to the course on Saturday morning as a single and complete someone else's foursome.

If you're golfing as a single, you'll be meeting three new people (most likely men) and odds are in your favor that at least one of them is single. (The Census Bureau estimates that 30 percent of Americans born between 1946 and 1964 are single.) You'll have him all to yourself for eighteen holes, and if you like him, you can let him buy you a Bloody Mary when you finish your round. And, don't worry about whether or not you're any good—nobody is.

3) Go to Somebody Else's Company Picnic

Pair up with another single pal and survey his or her company's assets. These events are social, and as an added bonus, you know everybody there is employed. Your insider buddy can act as your tour guide to help you avoid the guy who sticks paperclips up his nose or the weirdo with fifty-nine cats.

4) Marianne Williamson, Meet Wayne Dyer

If you're looking to meet men over 40 who are as interested in self-growth as you are then attend lectures, conferences, and seminars by spiritual and self-development leaders. This can be a great place to meet someone and hang out with a bunch of men who're actively seeking to live a more positive, meaningful, inspired life.

Weekend conferences are best if you're hoping to meet other people, because they offer more chances to socialize than daylong seminars provide. If the conference feels too pricey, contact the organization to and see if there's a way you can work at the event in exchange for free admission.

Yes, the crowd will be 70 percent women, but the men will be good ones.

5) Power Drills and Other Flirting Tools

Most cities have philanthropic singles organizations, and whether a group attracts young singles or mature singles depends on the city and the group.

The best part of meeting people through volunteer work is that you help make the world a better place and meet a lot of like-minded eligible men at the same time. (Besides, helping others gives you good dating karma.) If there are no volunteer groups in your area catering specifically to singles, check out Habitat for Humanity, www.habitat.org. It's a great way to meet people of all ages, and you get to spend the day in the sunshine using power tools. What could be better?

This article is excerpted from my brand new book, "How to Date Like a Grown-Up." If you follow my advice in this article and in my book, you might just get lucky, find the man of your dreams and get married – even if you're in your 40's, 50's and beyond!

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ClickBank's Top-Selling Love, Sex & Relationship eBooks

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What Do Men Find Attractive in a Woman? It Probably Isn't What You Think!

Ask ten women what they think men find attractive in women and nine will probably mention a specific body part or something to do with sex. Certainly, it's true that most men are visually stimulated by the physical characteristics of women, but when it comes to a long term meaningful relationship, looks aren't everything! So what do men find attractive in women? It probably isn't what you think!

Of course, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and every man has his own tastes and preferences. But are there some specific things that men look for that are common? Absolutely:

• Men seem to be almost universal in agreement that they love a woman who has her own interests and life outside of theirs. This reassures the man that he will get to keep his own independence. She won't be reliant on him for her sole source of activities. Also, most guys don't realize this, but when a woman is busy a lot with her own pursuits it makes her harder to get and men always want what they can't have!

• Another big turn on for men is a woman who knows who she is and where she is going. A self confident woman naturally draws people to her and this will no doubt also make her desirable to men seeking romance. When you obviously love yourself, it makes it much easier for others to love you.

• And men feel very strongly about women who make them feel loved and wanted. They want you to have your own life and be confident about who you are, but still make them feel like they are the center of your universe at the end of the day.

So now you have a great insight into what men are ultimately looking for. But how do you draw a man to you? How do you make him crazy with desire for you and treat you the way you deserve to be treated?

Actually there is more; a LOT more! There are some secrets about men that you probably don't know. Secrets that will draw them to you and allow you to create a solid and powerful relationship. The relationship you've probably dreamed about! If you want to learn more click here to see it for yourself!

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Marriage : Keep Your Marriage From Being Destroyed and Avoid These Marital Mistakes

Is a lasting marriage that is exciting, passionate, kind, warm, and caring a fairy tale or an obtainable dream? Does a marriage like that really have what it takes to grow and sustain? Of course, most people believe that is what they are marrying into when the say their "I do's." But with the country's high divorce rate, can it really happen? Despite the fact that some marriages end because of physical, emotional, or substance abuse, the rest are destroyed over "irreconcilable differences."

So if you feel you and your partner are growing apart, you could avoid the whole ugly mess of divorce by taking heed of the following advice.

1) Make each other a top priority.
With our busy lives filled with mind-numbing jobs, elderly parents and children who need our constant care, and the daily running of an entire household, it is entirely too easy to ignore the needs of your partner. If you do not want to lose your partner because you allowed other factors to take up all of your time, you need to immediately make your husband or wife feel loved, treasured, and appreciated through engaging in special time, and that does not mean physical intimacy necessarily. Special time also means getting out of the house for a walk or a date or anywhere you both can communicate without life's pressures butting in. You both must remind each other every once in a while that you are not just parents and breadwinners, you are two people who romantically love one another.

2) You have to maintain your marriage.
You are completely different in your thirties and forties than you were during the time you first became husband and wife in your twenties, so the question is during this time have you grown closer together or further apart? If you want your marriage to be a success, you must take time once a year to evaluate the state of your partnership and set new goals. One excellent question to ask one another is if there is anything either of you can do to enhance your connection; that question can help you jump start a meaningful discussion.

3) Only engage in positive marital behaviors.

Now this is not to say if you are experiencing abuse of any kind or if your partner is addicted to abusive substances that you should stay in the marriage. But in any other case where your you or your partner engage in behaviors that take too much time away from your marriage then that must stop. What does that mean? Some examples of this type of behavior can include watching an excessive amount of television, becoming wrapped up in a hobby or pastime, or being excessively involved in your kid's lives. So if you have allowed any of these factors to take away necessary time with your spouse, you are effectively destroying your marriage. In the case of dealing with over-scheduled children, once those children have grown and left the nest and you are left with your partner, more often than not, you will be left with a virtual stranger, not a friend, lover, and confidante.

4) Get professional help before it's too late.
Do not wait until you have hired divorce lawyers to go to marital counseling because by then too much damage has been done. During the course of counseling, you both will learn how to communicate with one another in an effective manner, not a destructive one. So if you are bored, upset, or disappointed, you will know exactly how to express that to your spouse. Receiving marital counseling in a timely fashion is the best way to maintain your marriage.
There is no need to become discouraged, you can save your marriage as long as you do not put it off any longer. If you are worried about the excessive cost of traditional counseling or that your partner is not completely on board, don't be. There are many resources online that can help you get your marriage back on track, spice up a boring marriage, or improve the way you both relate to each other on a daily basis. The best part about online help is that it is much more affordable than traditional avenues and of course, it all comes with a guarantee.

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Does Holding Off on Having Sex Really Improve Your Relationship's Long Term Potential?

Are you skeptical that holding off on having sex will really have any impact on the success of your relationship? Are you quick to jump into a physical relationship only to be left disappointed when things don't work out? When is it the right time to have sex? Holding off on having sex really can strengthen the foundation of your relationship.

There are many reasons that delaying sex is a good idea for both of you. First, it helps you separate the men who are just looking for a fling from the men who have real relationship potential. Having sex too soon tends to cloud your judgment about the man involved. You may overlook things that would normally be a red flag or you may fall into the trap of believing that sex itself will lead to love.

Additionally, delaying sex puts you in a unique category. Men have no problem finding women who are willing to have sex without any strings attached. So when a woman sets boundaries in this area it grabs his attention and fuels his anticipation which then drives him to prove that he is worthy of you. And if you believe that you are worth the wait, most men will too.

So when is the right time?

It's definitely not before he has made an exclusive commitment to you. And you can't make any assumptions here. If he hasn't specifically informed you both verbally and by his actions that he only wants to be with you, then you don't have a commitment. Don't let him slide on this. It's very important that you steak your ground clearly and then stick to it. No doubt it will be hard to do when the chemistry is intense, but it can be done.

Ultimately the decision to hold off on having sex is yours to make. Just be aware of the pros and cons of each choice and make a decision that you are comfortable with rather than allowing pressure from others to dictate your choice for you.

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Of Love, Marriage, Magic, And Music - And Money Making, Too

Although more than fifty years have gone by, the magic moment that Mary Patricia came into my life is as fresh as the morning dew, as clear as spring water, and yet just as warm as a mild fever.

In my freshman year at Columbia College, with the pressures of final exams upon me, as I looked for a secluded spot to study I found myself in Avery Hall, where the music practice rooms were located. Mozart's magical music flowed from one of the rooms; it was the adagio of Piano Sonata No. 12.

Of course I learned that bit of information much later, since in those years I had no idea who Mozart was. Noticing that the pianist was repeating the adagio over and over I sat on the floor right outside the door and listened to it. Two hours later, the budding and determined concert pianist stepped around me, for I was glued to the spot, and gave me a quizzical look.

"I didn't want to disturb you," I said. "What is the name of that song you played for two hours?"

"It's not a song, and you've been here two hours?"

Oh, heavenly bliss! Her voice was even sweeter than the music I had just heard. My musical ignorance, my heavy Spanish accent, and my less than imposing appearance gained her trust, for from that magic moment on Mary Patricia and I became inseparable lifetime sojourners.

Today as we enjoy our golden years, three children on their own, and two grandchildren to lavish love and gifts on, I feel that --free will notwithstanding- the touch of an angel nudges us humans in different directions. When Mary Patricia and I discuss the statistics that more than half of the people who get married end up divorcing, we are seized with infinite sadness.

I cannot imagine for one second life without my beloved partner.

This is a story narrated in first person voice, so I cannot tell you about other people's feelings, thoughts, and attitudes toward life are. What follows are some of the canons that have guided my life in my marriage.

Because Mary Patricia likes to eat fruit every day, I made it a point to always bring home an apple, bananas, grapes, or cantaloupes. Of course I knew she went to the market and picked her own fruit. My gesture, though, was more spiritual than nutritional-never come home empty handed.

Early in our marriage I learned that Mary Patricia wished to be consulted in all my decisions, no matter how petty or insignificant. So, I made the promise to myself that not only would I consult with her, but I would over consult.

Over consult I did. Except for that one time when I impulsively bought her a second piano. Not that she wasn't appreciative, but she let me know that had she been consulted she would have told me that she was pregnant with our third child and that it was time to save rather than to spend.

"With three children to support and put through Barnard College, you need to earn more money," she said.

Having already two girls, she was looking forward to a third one. "Why not Columbia College?" I asked, sounding like the ever macho-man from South America.

At that point in my career (30 years ago) I had been promoted to corporate controller and was earning a little under $100,000 a year. To my accountant's mind, that was a pretty good darn amount. And I considered myself a good provider. Yet hubris overcame my good sense and for a couple of weeks I chewed on the cud of resentment at the implication that I wasn't earning enough money.

Then one good day, Mary Patricia noticing my moodiness, said, "Money making will come easily to you when you think of those about you-not yourself. If I can see that you can, too."

That did it! I had been thinking of my own wonderful self and not of my loved ones. So I told Mary Patricia I would give up my job and I would become an investment banker. Without hesitation she agreed. That same day she went to the Coliseum Bookstore (Columbus Circle, long gone by now) and purchased all the necessary textbooks for me to study and pass the registered representative exams.

That evening she handed me the books and I handed her a colorful dish of juicy, sweet, diced cantaloupe, honey dew, and water melon--all laced with Merlot. To cap the evening she played for me the Mozart's adagio that had sent chills up my spine that fated day when I saw her for the first time. What did I see in her? Did I see the face of an angel, or the face of my mother whom I had left behind to come to this country? God only knows. If every man has an ideal image of a perfect woman, Mary Patricia was and is my "imago."

Today Mary Patricia no longer plays the piano, for her arthritis has invaded her legs and arms.

The good Lord smiled on me and made me an even bigger provider, for my career blossomed and I retired a wealthy investment banker. We've sent our children to Ivy schools, have college funds for the grandchildren, and we live in a grand neighborhood with fine neighbors. Mary Patricia --a child of an old patrician wasp family from Boston-- reassures me that she married up when she married me - "a poor immigrant boy from the Andes."

Last Sunday after church we went to the street fair on Madison Avenue, not far from where we live on Park Avenue. To tell the truth, I can't think of a better way to spend a glorious afternoon in New York City than at a street fair.

And I pushed Mary Patricia's wheel chair the whole length of the fair-all twenty blocks.

Retired. Former investment banker, Columbia University-educated, Vietnam Vet (67-68). For the writing techniques I use, see Mary Duffy's e-book: Sentence Openers. To read my book reviews of the Classics visit my blog: Writing To Live

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How to Know If You're in an Abusive Relationship

You may be in an abusive relationship and you don't know it. Many people are in one especially women and children. Very few voice out when something is wrong with their partner. As terrible as it is, one stays in such a situation for the fear of losing support from the partner.

Abuse is in different forms. Here is how to know if you're in an abusive relationship.

• One of the signs of abuse is when you give up on what you enjoy doing in order to please your partner. Unfortunately, most women think they have to submit to a man. The moment you start doing things so that the other one doesn't get upset with you, there's a problem. You'll then get frustrated and eventually lose interest in the relationship.

• Do you find yourself lying about your partner's behavior? Does he beat you or throw things at you when he's angry and all you do is keep quiet? I did that for many years. It is hard to get help because you want people to think you've a perfect relationship and everything is fine. Just ask yourself how long you'll go on like that. When this happens, seek help immediately. The earlier you deal with the problem the better.

• I don't know about you, but I find it very unfair when you can't express your opinion to your partner. You can't sit and talk about anything. All the decisions are made by one person. I understand that certain decisions can be made by the man but even then you both have to agree.

• Jealousy and possessiveness. You should know when this is acceptable and when it is not. A jealous man will make you feel like you're in jail because your privacy will soon be invaded. Jealousy becomes a problem when you're not allowed to see your friends, relatives or go out by yourself. Take nothing lightly.

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How You Can Get Over Insecurity In Relationships

How can you overcome insecurity in relationships?

Having insecurity in relationships is zilch to laugh about. Almost always, it comes as the result of heartbreak. If your heart has been broken ( whose heart hasn't, really? ) or is broken now, you know exactly what I mean. Besides the depression, all kinds of negative feelings pile up on an already stressed body.

At about that point, you are so unfocused on the positive and so concentrated on the negative that it's a wonder you can function in any way. You go against the Law of Attraction that states that you get what you focus upon. That implies that instead of being relieved from your agony, you are getting even more of it.

Never you worry, though. The Universe is very forgiving and always claims YES to you. So, no earlier you shift your focus, your fact will shift as well, from the negative, to the positive.

There are 3 steps to take to begin your journey to recovery from insecurity in relationships

1.Grieve

Grieving straight after your heartbreak is the only way to go. Don't put off this important step. The more you take to do it, the longer it'll take you to fix. Dive head on.

You are not just grieving for your lost love or lover. You are mourning for your loss of trust - before you can heal from insecurity in relationships, you must first accept that it exists at all!

Go deep into your wound. Cry, scream, punch your pillow, kick rocks, go to your underworld if you must ( just like Orpheus ). Face the darkness. Do what you need to do without pretences. You must be true to your hurt, to your emotions. Your acceptance that you are hurt is your biggest step for your true healing. You will come back from it a much stronger person and ready for the second step.

two. Plan

To recover from insecurity in relationships you want to go on a journey, your healing journey. And like with any journey, you need to plan. You don't go on a trip without knowing what's going to occur beforehand, do you? Even if you are following folks's plan, you want to know what is going down. This is planning.

When it's time for the healing journey, many of us hop on an unplanned trip, because they do not know better and they make many mistakes along the path. Don't fall in that trap. Plan and date what you need to do to fix your broken heart and you'll find that slowly to begin with your insecurity in relationships begins to fade.

Plan time for yourself. Plan something that doesn't involve thinking,eg a good massage. Plan your work in small chunks at first - if you do not feel you can get through a day, plan your diary an hour at a time.


3. Take action

After you plan, the following logical step is to take action. Here are some steps that you may take to make sure the path you selected is the best for you. Here are some proposals :

one. Shoulder responsibility for your healing from your insecurity in relationships.

two. Take time for yourself - do things that cause you to feel good. Remember your worth!

3. When you're inspired, take action

four. Remember that'Today is a gift; that's why they call it the present'

five. Excuse each and everyone, past and present - this can be tough, but if you're to recover from insecurity in relationships you'll need to find a way!

six. Understand the Law of Attraction - and use it to attract good folks and events.

7. Release negative folks from your life

8. Dive into your religious work

9. Do your affirmations and visualizations

10. Be grateful. Appreciate. Bless

eleven. Expect miracles

So here you are. You may have had a broken heart and have some residual insecurity in relationships now, but recall this too shall pass. And when it passes, you'll be so much stronger you'll appreciate the journey you went to. And you may bless it.

http://www.trust-in-relationships.com. Trevor is a who discovered a program of recovering from heartbreak and insecurity in relationships after his 2nd marriage ended in 2001.

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Fear of Approaching Women

You stand there immovable with your hands sweating, your heart beating twice as faster, your lips seem to be sealed by something and your eyes fixated on HER… Your dream girl is standing over there but you just can't approach her. Come on, we have all been there. Don't be ashamed to admit that. We always wanted to approach the women we wanted and talk to them but never really got ourselves to do that. Why so? What is the reason behind that? Yes, in this article, we are going to discuss about approaching women in general. Well a little looking at the subject will reveal actually one reason. It's FEAR. Fear of approaching women! But, fearing what? Are we really afraid of the woman? Are we afraid of her harsh words? Some say that we fear being REJECTED. I think if I had been in a room alone with a girl and I said "hi" to the girl or made any move on her and she rejected, I could not have cared less about that. Darn! Nobody is going to know and I don't even care if she is going to share this experience with her friends or not. I think our fear is getting rejected IN FRONT OF OTHERS (in the simplest of language). We hate being rejected in front of others. Believe it or not, most of us, or rather almost all of us, are specifically driven by our ego. We don't really understand ourselves truly but we understand what our EGO makes us understand. And having this fear is absolutely normal. In our animal society, we are judged by our social standard and class. More social status, better survival rate, more resourceful and better future… It is as simple as that. We love power. Not muscular power but social power. Where ever it comes from. Whether the muscle or money. And for this particular reason, we fear approaching the fairer sex. And this is all aggravated by the false attitude put up by the woman. You go to any bar or club and you find the hot girls standing there with an attitude of "Don't even dare to come near me; you will get burnt". Oh well it's scary and this makes the fear of approaching women all the worse. I know that. I have been through that. And let me tell me I still feel that. Remember, it's never going to GO AWAY. It is embedded in our basic psychological and nervous hardwiring and it is to stay. Yes, I iterate myself once again… We fear approaching women and we will continue to experience that peculiar stomach wrenching feeling in the future as well. But the point is in getting control over it and being able to overcome it over the time.

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How to Play Hard to Get and Make Him Commit Fast

When it comes to playing hard to get there is a balance which you must get right in order to win. After all, the last thing that you want to do is lose a guy's interest trying to play this game. However, playing hard to get can be very effective as long as you do it right. So how can you strike the right balance without really turning this guy off? Well, keep reading and these tips will help you to draw the line in the right place.

The first thing which you must do is keep some distance between you and him. If a man is being pursued by you then he is either going to get bored and move on or get comfortable in letting you do all the work. Let him have some space and take yours and you will be off to a good start in playing hard to get.

Second, when you are with him be all about him. This may not seem that you are hard to get but as long as you keep the first one in line then this point can be VERY effective. Pick some things to do which are really exciting and new. Make sure that you are flirting with him and just enjoying the moment and making it memorable.

Do not talk about commitment at all until he does first. You may have to wait a long time to have him bring this one up. However, you can be sure that if you do then the game of hard to get is over for good. Men are much slower to connect and build emotional bonds but once they do, commitment is no problem. You just have to make sure that they don't beat you to it.

These are the keys to playing hard to get and the fastest way to get a commitment from any man.

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This article is contributed by Tina Jones. Tina is part of the Unforgettable Woman Publishing Team. She works together with founder Alexandra Fox and writes dating/relationship articles for women who want to understand male psychology, how to attract men, and find true love. You can find more about Unforgettable Woman Publishing by visiting their website.

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The Kama Sutra - Not Just a Sex Manual

By Reena Daruwalla

Anyone who has been to India or has read enough about India would have seen ancient Indian sculptures or pictures of them; even someone with the most rudimentary idea about India would we familiar with the Kama Sutra. If you have visited temples like Khajuraho and many others in India, you would have seen frescoes and sculpture featuring exceedingly sexual, even orgiastic postures, various sex positions, even group sex and same sex scenes.

In the old days, India faced the problem of under population (as against over population today). So the kings routinely commissioned the court sculptors to design sculptures so erotic that they acted as an aphrodisiac to encourage people to produce more babies to populate their land! Perhaps the Kama Surta had just such a beginning.

In the west, the Kama Sutra is viewed as an ancient sex manual only, which is it, but it is much more than that. It is also a book about social values, etiquette, duties, economic obligations etc. Understandably the sex manual part of this voluminous work is what has gained maximum popularity. Kama, simply put is sex, but more specifically it means enjoyment using all the five sense of touch, taste, smell, hearing and smell and enjoyment not just for the body but for the mind and spirit as well.

One part of the manual deals with sexual positions, how to embrace and kiss, foreplay (marking with nails is one chapter), role playing and even the appropriate sounds to be made! One entire segment is devoted to advice about how to acquire a wife, another segment is about other people's wives! Another segment is allocated to courtesans, how they should earn money, how to live behave and conduct themselves, how to live as a man's wife etc.

The final part of the text deals with personal adornment and love potions and other methods of making a person attractive. It also deals with methods of arousal and miscellaneous experiments. All in all I would conclude that it was a book way ahead of its times.

Some years back a film was made about the period of Indian history when the Kama Sutra was written. It was a film called Utsav and was set in the period of Vatsyayana (the author). This film was about the renowned courtesan of the time, Vasantsena; the haunting melodious songs of the film are still very popular. Courtesans were, in those days viewed with respect, insofar as sex was viewed as an art to be learned and taught. Some parts of the film were very funny too, when Vatsayana is shown peering into various rooms of a brothel collecting material for his book.

So really sex was not talked of in hushed tones the way it is now; it was as much part of social life as anything else and the Kama Sutra perhaps best reflects this.

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How to Make Your Ex Easily Crawl Back to You! This Works When Everything Seems Hopeless

Spending sleepless nights and wallowing in self pity is not the way to carry on after the split! Why let your ex get the better of you? If you have wasted enough time regretting the circumstances that led to the breakup, do something to break out of this rut! Don't surrender to misery another day. Find out today how you can get your ex to crawl back to you!

Prove your ex wrong!
Your ex has probably seen you moping around looking like the world has come to an end ever since the breakup. Shake yourself loose from this attitude of a loser and start proving to your ex and the world that you are an overcomer! Focus your mind on positive feelings and gear up to really enjoy yourself!

Become a new creation!
Arm yourself with weapons like stylish clothes, great body and exquisite makeup! Your ex will not know what hit him/her when he/she claps his/her eyes on you! Looking like a million dollars will make anybody sit up and take notice of you! When your ex sees you looking so stunning he/she will have second thoughts about the split!

Invoke jealousy.
Making your ex jealous should be easy with you looking so good! When your ex realizes that you will have no problem getting dates and being so popular looking the way you do now, he/she is bound to be jealous that he/she is out of the picture, and will want to have a piece of the action!

Be soft, caring and forgiving!
Having a soft and sensitive, loving and forgiving nature can only bring you benefits and give you an advantage. Old feelings of bitterness and anger will melt away and your ex will want to kiss and make up before too long! Don't bring up the past anymore and make sure you start afresh! This type of attitude will prove to be a strong foundation for the future.

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Is Your Relationship Causing You Pains? Use This Guide For Positive Way Out

By Peter Olu-Joseph

It is possible to keep a relationship that brings you peace rather than pain, progress rather than regrets. Many people find themselves in relationships that bring much concern, heartache and pains to them. This cuts across all ages, it is not peculiar to any age group. Kids, Teens, Youths and Adults have their own share of this type of problem.

What makes the difference and make people to be able to enjoy their relationship depends on applying what you know to guide yourself in your relationship.

Actually relationships are to make us better and to give us progress in life. Keeping relationship should enhance our lives in many areas and since we are human beings we cannot exist in isolation hence we relate with ourselves.

There are some tested strategies that you can employ to handle relationships so that you can find benefits from it rather than problems. If we know what to do and we do it we will certainly gain and not regret our relationships.

1. Never go into relationship until you know your partner very well. You must ensure that you understand the type of character you are getting involved with. Here you will need to know his/her values in life. This determines his/her believes that informs his behaviour.

2. Never engage in suspicion rather build the relationship on trust.
Whatever you see or here about your partner take time to discuss it freely and openly with him/here. This will give you the opportunity to know the truth and operate on it rather than suspicion which can create greater problems.

3. Never engage in gossip. What you can not boldly discuss about your partner with him/her never discuss it with another person or third party to the relationship. Respect your partner and hold him/her in high esteem and he/she will treat you the same way.

4. Be ready to give to another what you desire from them and there shall be peace and joy all around.

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I am a qualified Cost and Management Accountant and a minister of the gospel presently resident in Nigeria. I have been a marriage counselor since year 2000. I have passion for helping people to increase the quality of their lives and find joy in life, marriage and family. I also help people to find financial rest through the use of internet opportunities.

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To Love, Again

To Love, Again by Melinda M. Sorensson

We are bound not only by material things but also by our emotional attachments. It is much easier to detach ourselves from things. Not so with people.

I ran away when I was 7 years old. Not away from my parents home but to my parents home from my aunt and uncle's home 5 miles away from where my parents lived.

Even then I knew that it would be better if someone were with me so I took two of my friends from my uncle’s neighborhood and we walked the five miles. We were young and it was fun. It took us two hours but time flew by.

I was lonely at my uncle's home. It was a summer vacation and my parents thought it would be nice for me to spend a week with my aunt and uncle who did not have children of their own. I was a living doll on loan for a week. After three days, I was homesick. I missed my mother but I missed my father most.

My mother was livid that I did what I did but my father just laughed and welcomed me in his arms, and within a couple of hours my aunt and uncle, frantic about not finding me, and the parents of my two friends came to our home, to get to take my friends home. I said goodbye knowing that it will be a long time before we get to see each other again. It was then I knew what it was like to be attached.

One of my colleagues, a wise man, told me a very long time ago, that all relationships end, whether voluntarily or involuntarily.

At that time I thought, wow, that was not a very happy view of life, and yet it is the truth. Even if we love another during a lifetime, there is still death to contend with. Things are impermanent. Ties are impermanent.

In the beginning of romantic love, two feelings are evidently felt: Fascination with the other person, a curiosity that is sustained for a period of time, and the promise of passion, sexual union. There is an illusion that the one person can sustain both with another.

I am thinking of the words fascination and passion. So vivid, so colorful, so intriguing.

Fascination comes every time there is something new and different.

Passion is a need to unite with the object of affection at the physical level.

Fascination ends and passion fades, in time. It is the nature of humans to get bored and tired of something no matter how good. It is only a matter of time.

Uncontrolled, passion can burn. While the object of passion is to unite with the object of affection it is without meaning unless both people have united at the level of the soul.

There is so much energy associated with passion that it is what is required to create. In some it is channeled to a great work of art. With the saints, the object of affection is God.

To use the energy of passion is the highest form of yoga.

It is not possible for anyone to sustain the fascination and passion of another, forever. To think so would be to delude oneself.

It follows that the only kind of relationship that would work long term is the one where there is no expectation beyond the bounds of common self respect. Treat the other person the way you want to be treated. Moreover, you give what you desire the most not because of the hope for a return but because it is the most natural thing to do.

By this I mean that you do not disrespect the other because who you are really disrespecting yourself when you do so. By this I mean that honesty, trust, loyalty and understanding are implicit.

It is a relationship where either person is free to leave at any time and the other would be happy for the other person regardless.

In this case romantic love, the needy, clinging, grasping, possessing quality of it, is replaced by something entirely different. A soul connection. The kind that lets oneself and the other be. Like having your best friend. A mirror of yourself.

It is the kind of love that sees the other person just as he or she is, not through the illusion of perfection, but through the raw and naked quality of that person regardless of position in life, economic status and societal pressures.

I know that this kind of love exists. I saw it in my parents.

In this case the choice to be together is moment to moment rather than a promise of forever.

This is why I am afraid to be in love, again. It is not because I am not able to love deeply, it is because I have not yet perfected this quality in my heart.

And when I have, I will know, and I will be free to love again. And I will offer it freely, without hope of return, without the need for a promise of forever, not even a wish for the person to acknowledge it.

For loving is it's own reward. It is a balm that heals both the giver and the receiver equally.

So I will love, unconditionally, freely and without bounds.

Eventually we will all have to give up all attachments to be really free. A free man does not single out another.

The distinction between love and hate, hope and fear, gain or loss, fame and shame must eventually be dissolved to have true freedom.

The kind of freedom that Buddha attained. I know I will have to do this sometime. We all do.

But for now I will love, live life and be happy.

For now, I will honor my karmic connections in this lifetime and hope that in so doing, I will still be on my path to true freedom.

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Dating Tips for Women Over 40: 5 Unexpected Places to Meet Great Men Over 40

It breaks my heart whenever I hear women say that there aren't any good men over 40 left to date, because it's just not true. Sure, it feels true when you're sitting across the table from your blind date—a guy who wears black socks with sandals and whines about how his seventh divorce really was all his wife's fault, because frankly, in his opinion, all women are inherently evil, gold diggers or both.

But there are a lot of decent, kind, available men over 40 who are single and looking for someone to love.

We all know that once you hit your fortieth (err, thirtieth) birthday, you're not going to have much luck spending every weekend hanging out in a bar, gripping a bottle of light beer, and listening to the same old jokes, meeting the same people in different clothes. When we belly up to the bar, we're much more likely to meet that smarmy loser whose exposed silver chest hairs seem perilously likely to fall in our drinks than be the man of our dreams.

So where do you go to meet these wonderful, enlightened, please-let-them-be-attractive, minimally damaged men over 40?

5 Unexpected Places to Find Great, Single Men Over 40 to Date Right Now

1) Parties Once-Removed: Six Degrees of Barbeque

How can you expect to meet and date great men over 40 when you always invite the same seventeen people to all of your parties? Bring some new blood to the old gang. With Parties Once-Removed, everybody you invite brings someone that nobody else in the group knows. Think of it as six degrees of separation, only backwards. Voila! You'll have a party full of brand-new people who already get along great with your closest friends.

2) Go Clubbing

Want to meet an endless supply of fit, financially comfortable, educated men over 40? Take up golfing. If you don't already golf, there are lots of reasonably priced lessons at your local public course. (And of course, plenty of overpriced ones at the private clubs.)

Once you've mastered the basics, you have two options to maximize your man-meeting potential: You can pull together a foursome with a collection of like-minded women, or you can head out to the course on Saturday morning as a single and complete someone else's foursome.

If you're golfing as a single, you'll be meeting three new people (most likely men) and odds are in your favor that at least one of them is single. (The Census Bureau estimates that 30 percent of Americans born between 1946 and 1964 are single.) You'll have him all to yourself for eighteen holes, and if you like him, you can let him buy you a Bloody Mary when you finish your round. And, don't worry about whether or not you're any good—nobody is.

3) Go to Somebody Else's Company Picnic

Pair up with another single pal and survey his or her company's assets. These events are social, and as an added bonus, you know everybody there is employed. Your insider buddy can act as your tour guide to help you avoid the guy who sticks paperclips up his nose or the weirdo with fifty-nine cats.

4) Marianne Williamson, Meet Wayne Dyer

If you're looking to meet men over 40 who are as interested in self-growth as you are then attend lectures, conferences, and seminars by spiritual and self-development leaders. This can be a great place to meet someone and hang out with a bunch of men who're actively seeking to live a more positive, meaningful, inspired life.

Weekend conferences are best if you're hoping to meet other people, because they offer more chances to socialize than daylong seminars provide. If the conference feels too pricey, contact the organization to and see if there's a way you can work at the event in exchange for free admission.

Yes, the crowd will be 70 percent women, but the men will be good ones.

5) Power Drills and Other Flirting Tools

Most cities have philanthropic singles organizations, and whether a group attracts young singles or mature singles depends on the city and the group.

The best part of meeting people through volunteer work is that you help make the world a better place and meet a lot of like-minded eligible men at the same time. (Besides, helping others gives you good dating karma.) If there are no volunteer groups in your area catering specifically to singles, check out Habitat for Humanity, www.habitat.org. It's a great way to meet people of all ages, and you get to spend the day in the sunshine using power tools. What could be better?

This article is excerpted from my brand new book, "How to Date Like a Grown-Up." If you follow my advice in this article and in my book, you might just get lucky, find the man of your dreams and get married – even if you're in your 40's, 50's and beyond!

Lisa Daily is a dating coach, speaker, author and popular media guest who helps women over 40 find great men to date. Now, you can WIN one of 25 signed copies of her new book HOW TO DATE LIKE A GROWN-UP all month. To register, or get more of Lisa's free dating articles, tips and advice visit http://www.lisadaily.com/datingexperttv

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Heal Broken Heart in Your Love Relationship

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Have you ever been in a romantic love & then broken hearted? Broken hearts make you afraid & trauma to build a new relationship? So, how to heal your broken heart? A broken heart (or heartbreak) is a common metaphor used when a human being suffers an emotional or physical loss, to the extent that it begins to cause them physical or physiological pain. Your heart was breaking because you ever been in love & happy in your love, but now you are meeting situation that someone you love has changed & not suitable for you. Don't worry about that. A broken heart actually can get up, leave this bad history, & build a new relationship.

A relationship is a connection between people. Relationship is about giving each other 50/50. No one can always right. Someday they will get wrong too. You have to understand about it. You live your strength to fulfill your couple weakness. Your couple gives the strength to fulfill your weakness too. That is a good relationship.

"Get up after broke". It's easy to say but hard to practice it. Many people feel hard to get up after they fell because they always look beneath; they always feel about their falls & solve the problems emotionally & angry each other. You can't solve the problems if you use your emotion to think & your brain to follow your emotion. If you get broken heart, just take a longer breath & blow slowly. Do it 3 times. You can also take some cool water to refresh your face. It will help you to muffle your anger. If you do it, you will feel fresh. If you feel fresh, you can think & make the right decision.

If you have a traumatic experience about your broken relationship, think that everybody is not same. You have to consort with many people to understand that everybody have unique behaviors. Some are good person, and the others are bad people.

If you feel something wrong with your partnership, solve the problem as soon as possible. If you wait to solve until next time the problem will be bigger. And it will be a time bomb that can blew out at any time. You will get the serious broken heart. You and your couple will accuse each other. So, it's easier for you to realize & solve the problem now than you will get hurt tomorrow.

If you think it's not good to continue your relationship, discontinue your relationship soon. Discontinue doesn't mean that you stop/broke your relationship. It prefers you avoid building deeper relationship with him/her. Just be a friend without deep relationship. Maybe you will feel hurt to discontinue, but a little hurt is better than you will.

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Your Pet or Your Relationship?

I had two dogs, one recently passed away. I now just have one dog who is 8 and I had him since he was a puppy. I realize he is not a person but he is the closest I will have to a child and I love him. My dogs have been there for me through think and thin. They care not about how I look, what I wear, how much I have in the bank, what kind of car I drive and all the petty things people look at and judge a person on. They love me for me and that is all. It is unconditional love and I would never, ever, ever give my Max up for anyone.

If someone does not like my dog, that is fine. But to tell me to toss him away is horrible. What does that say about me to toss my animal out a window(so to speak) for a man? It says I have a bad character, in my opinion. If I would toss my doggie, what else would I toss? If I met someone who was allergic to dogs, it would not work out.

I do not expect anyone to love my dog but they have to treat him decently. I am not a fan of cats but if someone had a cat, I would not love it but I wouls be kind to it.

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